• Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted Jan 18
    The tricky part about 'preparing the child' is that there is a progress path ahead. Be it academic where recognition of numbers come before addition, and then algebra or non academic like respect for your own body and toys comes before sharing/empathy.
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted Jan 10
    Whenever we hurt our children, the rationalization that the child adds on to this is –
    I didn’t behave properly so I was hurt
    They hurt me when they are angry
    Either ways this carried through years all the way into adulthood affects and manifests in the coping mechanism that they develop
    Are we
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted Jan 8
    When our children see us break down and resort to verbal or physical threat..………..We are leaving them with maladapted strategies on how to face conflicts in real life.
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted Jan 3
    No matter what is the emotional state of the child, if he sees a rejection, dejection, hatred, anger or helplessness in our eyes, the child finds it very difficult to accept that aspect of his personality/behavior and wants to fight it out internally.This is contrary to what the situation should be.
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted Jan 3
    Our desire to get instant results right then and there could rather be pushing the envelope wrong way. It is like every drop of red color that goes in a blue cauldron doesn't instantly change the color, that doesn't mean it didn't do anything. The change is subtle but sure.
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted December 21, 2019
    With all well meaning intentions that we parents have in our mind for our children, often it is the silences that we keep over topics which convey our unsaid expectations to the children!!
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Development Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted December 21, 2019
    The tricky part in parenting is to understand the difference between:
    Am I taking these steps to encourage my child to achieve the targets he has set upon for himself
    OR
    Am I setting targets for my child and encouraging him towards that?
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Specialist/Counselor at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted December 17, 2019
    While connecting with children, it is never about how good or bad am I, the parent. It is about understanding what clicks with this unique person ‘the child’ in a manner that helps in the long term.
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Development Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted December 16, 2019
    CHILDREN LEARN BY DOING THEMSELVES.
    CHILDREN LEARN BY OBSERVING OTHERS.

    Resist from interrupting a child who may seem to be doing nothing. His brain is actively learning.

    *(provided he is not in front of a TV or Mobile!)
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)
  • Kiran Tevtiya
    Posted November 27, 2019
    When we get a new gadget in the house, we refer to ‘how to’ manual
    When we get a new pet in the house, we scour resources on ‘how to take care of it’
    When we get a cold, we consult a doctor
    ....But when we have a child (a unique genotype each time), we know how to raise the child, because….?
    — Kiran Tevtiya, Child Behavior Specialist at Bahawa Child Health Clinic (Mumbai)